There is definitely no shortage of relationship advice for women online – how to get a boyfriend or deal with relationship problems etc.. The problem is there are no relationship ‘preventative articles’: how do you avoid bad relationships in the first place? The lack seems to be somewhere in the middle
Know who you’re looking for
Ladies concentrate on and dedicate too much time trying to be attractive to men but don’t even know what specific man they’re trying to get the attention from. This definitely does not not include the talk, dark and handsome types who tend to be unattainable. Women really need to think about the important character attributes they want their ideal guy to possess.
Pay attention to contradictions in your expectations. For example, if you love the strong yet silent type, don’t complain and have issues when your perfect man has a hard time sharing his feelings and expressing emotions.
Establish your boundaries
Boundaries should be ‘set’ from the beginning of your relationship. These are often called “deal breakers,” If they are crossed they are usually a sign to leave the relationship. They’re things like physical abuse, criminal background, and addictions qualify as “deal breakers”.
However, know your own boundaries before you begin a relationship when you have a clear head and not romantically involved. When a couple are together – romantically, physically, maybe financially- if becomes hard to leave the situation and you may turn a blind eye and make excuses for their behaviour.
Always tell a friend of your boundaries, if your situation because difficult they have a clear opinion of the situation and can give you relationship advice that you may not have thought about/just ignored.
Learn the warning signs
There are ALWAYS warning signs, despite what others may say. If something becomes a regular occurrence, hurts you mentally or physically just leave. You want to choose the best man for you and what you deserve. This way you can filter out the noise and focus in on the good men.
Listen to your gut
Yes it is a cliche but it‘s one of the most often repeated pieces of relationship advice for women because it’s so true. Don’t ignore your instincts. Your gut feeling is there for a reason so listen to it. If something doesn’t feel right, it probably isn’t.
Beware of instant attraction
Don’t limit yourself. Plenty of women feel that is they aren’t immediately attracted and don’t experience ‘love at first’ that it won’t be successful. ‘Love at first sight’ does happen but is so rare don’t get hung up on it. Chalk that one up to instinct, too, I guess.
On the other hand, instant attraction and whirlwind romances can come crashing down very quickly so beware. If you’re besotted with someone question why. If there aren’t any major stop signs, go ahead and get to know the guy, but take it slowly. A strong initial attraction should make you more cautious, not less.
Before you read any more relationship advice for women, take some time to get clear on your own needs and desires. Decide what kind of man you’re looking for and set clear boundaries and you’ll give yourself a much better chance of avoiding heartache in the future.